Talk less, listen more

Many of us think of talking as a competitive sport in which the person who speaks the most is the cleverest and the person who speaks the least is the dumbest. We tend to think that the person who speaks the longest and the loudest is the winner. But in reality it is the other way round. People who tend to speak less are the real winners.

All of is fall into this trap. In most conversations the person who speaks the least benefits the most and the person who speaks the most benefits the least. This is because:

1. People who speak less are more intelligent

People who speak less tend to be good listeners. They aren't thinking about a brilliant answer when other person is finished speaking. They actually listen with complete focus which makes them gain a lot of knowledge.

2. They have nothing to regret about later.

When we speak a lot we sometimes reveal some important information which we may regret about later. Speaking less prevents this.

3. They won't offend anyone.

People who speak less cannot easily offend anyone and they don't get into fights with anyone.

4. When they speak people listen to them with complete focus.

Who would you want to listen to- the one which keeps on speaking the whole day or the one which speaks occasionally? If you constantly keep speaking no one will listen up after sometime but if you speak occasionally, people will listen to you with complete focus.

5. They wont say anything dumb.
It is quite easy to say speak thoughtlessly, with insufficient information or with a wrong assumption.  That can make you look less intelligent than you really are and you may seem to be dumb.

6. The person they are listening to would feel understood.
Most of the people wish to be listened. By listening to people you can make the person feel understood and cared about. Especially when you're focused on what they're saying rather than thinking something else. The person would feel happy and a bond would easily be created.

7. They become the best secret keepers.
When you speak less you do not reveal any secret and so people share their problems and secrets with you and you become the best secret keeper.

8. They would never be addressed as a chatterbox.
So yes, when you speak less you won't be addressed by such names and people won't get annoyed by you and would enjoy your company.